Ziang's rssJul 2008
Managing expectations
19/07/08 14:53
A small episode just
happened, and I guess everything is worth learning from - managing
expectations.
I guess I expect too much from friends sometimes - to the extend that views clash and things get uphappy. Not everyone can look beyond the surface, and be totally unbias - given that it’s really inbuilt into our character previously.
Not that I can do that too, of course.
An acquaintance shared about a story, which was pretty interesting. One day after work, he returned home to find his son crying. Disturbed over why the 9 year old boy is crying, he asked his son for the reason.
“Dad, I just got bullied and pushed down by some friends.”
The acquaintance was dumbfolded - he didn’t know how to answer his son. His son turned to his wife, who hurriedly came over to ask his opinion. Talking about vicious cycle!
“How to console our son?”
“I don’t know! I can’t possibly tell him to go whack that fella up right!”
Ha. He then shared his own life story about how he was fighting kids from other schools at the very exact age back then and got two strokes of the cane from the principal.
Interesting, isn’t it? While coming to terms with our own personality, we can’t possibly exert our expectations on others - it won’t turn out to be the same, or to be the right decision. I had friends who run me down, refusing to go an extra step to compare and contrast before arriving at that conclusion.
It’s not fair, definitely. But then again, what’s fair?
I guess I can’t really blame them - after all, the society is vicious, and time and tide waits for no man. You either make the cut - or you get totally ignored. They probably wouldn’t even want to see your product - knowing that you’re fresh.
Initial assumptions do you the most discredit, I guess.
Oh well.
I guess I expect too much from friends sometimes - to the extend that views clash and things get uphappy. Not everyone can look beyond the surface, and be totally unbias - given that it’s really inbuilt into our character previously.
Not that I can do that too, of course.
An acquaintance shared about a story, which was pretty interesting. One day after work, he returned home to find his son crying. Disturbed over why the 9 year old boy is crying, he asked his son for the reason.
“Dad, I just got bullied and pushed down by some friends.”
The acquaintance was dumbfolded - he didn’t know how to answer his son. His son turned to his wife, who hurriedly came over to ask his opinion. Talking about vicious cycle!
“How to console our son?”
“I don’t know! I can’t possibly tell him to go whack that fella up right!”
Ha. He then shared his own life story about how he was fighting kids from other schools at the very exact age back then and got two strokes of the cane from the principal.
Interesting, isn’t it? While coming to terms with our own personality, we can’t possibly exert our expectations on others - it won’t turn out to be the same, or to be the right decision. I had friends who run me down, refusing to go an extra step to compare and contrast before arriving at that conclusion.
It’s not fair, definitely. But then again, what’s fair?
I guess I can’t really blame them - after all, the society is vicious, and time and tide waits for no man. You either make the cut - or you get totally ignored. They probably wouldn’t even want to see your product - knowing that you’re fresh.
Initial assumptions do you the most discredit, I guess.
Oh well.
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Why so serious?
19/07/08 09:30
BEWARE if some funny guy tells you this. Especially if he has a scar by the sides of his mouth.
Whoops!
Spoiler! Ha. Well. It’s been a while since a thought provoking show pops up after The Bucket List, and I’m pretty sure I’d rate this movie higher than it. Which I never expect a superhero movie to be so good. A week of turmoil where plenty of changes took place, and I’m glad some chunk of worries were taken off by pondering over the show.
The movie is dark. Very. It sucks to be living in Gotham, where you can’t trust your fellow 911 folks who’s been constantly bought over, or even your lawmakers. When you’re cornered to a spot, your true self will reveal - and this movie does give you a peak to that.
You either die a hero, or you live long enough to find yourself become a villain.
This must be the strongest tagline, powerful and provoking.
Without revealing too much, if you find yourself liking movies which test your mind, testing moralities, ethics, trust, and of course, plenty of twists in the plots which surprise you, and superb acting by the cast, from Batman and Alfred to Joker and Harvey - please go and watch this.
You won’t regret it
deadly concoction
14/07/08 03:10
IT’S 3.11 am in the
morning.
Looking through the list of people online, which is precariously low, the room felt especially warm, and I feel like I’m in a sauna - though I just bathed.
Which is weird for someone who struggled to sleep for the past hour only to wake up to bathe.
Sometimes I think I’m too naive for my own good. If I can just be a bit teeny wheenie more selfish, and practical, I probably could have gotten a better sleep, and less troubles. After all, there’s nothing personal involved, and I’m just trying to make things complicated by thinking of all the what-if situations. The situation can be made worse by the deadly concoction of beer and a few cups of tea, which had a serious caffeine effect on the mind.
Oh well. Already taken the first step. I guess God gives us trials and tribulations to test our will and resolve.
Let’s hope things will turn out fine.
Looking through the list of people online, which is precariously low, the room felt especially warm, and I feel like I’m in a sauna - though I just bathed.
Which is weird for someone who struggled to sleep for the past hour only to wake up to bathe.
Sometimes I think I’m too naive for my own good. If I can just be a bit teeny wheenie more selfish, and practical, I probably could have gotten a better sleep, and less troubles. After all, there’s nothing personal involved, and I’m just trying to make things complicated by thinking of all the what-if situations. The situation can be made worse by the deadly concoction of beer and a few cups of tea, which had a serious caffeine effect on the mind.
Oh well. Already taken the first step. I guess God gives us trials and tribulations to test our will and resolve.
Let’s hope things will turn out fine.
albert . melissa
10/07/08 20:08
THEY always say fate
comes at the strangest of moments. I guess sometimes it really does
Albert and Melissa didn’t really hit off 10 years ago. I can still remember that there was once Melissa had a problem during one of the orientation game (pardon me, I might be wrong!), and Albert pops up to solve her problem, like Prince Charming saving a damsel in distress. After the ups and downs throughout the long path of courtship, they finally decided to settle down, happily ever after.
Pardon the fairytale mood, but yah, do enjoy the slideshow!
*click to view. do wait a while to load
Albert and Melissa didn’t really hit off 10 years ago. I can still remember that there was once Melissa had a problem during one of the orientation game (pardon me, I might be wrong!), and Albert pops up to solve her problem, like Prince Charming saving a damsel in distress. After the ups and downs throughout the long path of courtship, they finally decided to settle down, happily ever after.
Pardon the fairytale mood, but yah, do enjoy the slideshow!
*click to view. do wait a while to load
Flea mart @ Red Dot
07/07/08 10:09
DROP by Red Dot over
the weekend, and finally caught a glimpse of the flea mart over
there. It’s something new, apart from the normal stalls, with
performances, exhibitions (the polaroids), and even portrait
sessions going on.
Some pictures
cheering the performer
We’ll draw your...
Uncanny resemblance
Some pictures
cheering the performer
We’ll draw your...
Uncanny resemblance
Polaroids
06/07/08 03:25
ONCE upon a time, polaroids were a marvel of the time, bringing instant photography to its heyday. With advance in digital technology, though more steps are taken, we can at least see what we want to print on the go.
No wonder they have to go. We’d miss you...time for you to stay permanently in the museums
Bored?
04/07/08 17:03
Desolation
02/07/08 17:18
REALLY love this picture that Paul shot. We were loitering around the neighbourhood when he found and shot this gem, and send it to me for post process. Simple but meaningful picture - when you’re old, you won’t want to be forsaken or abandoned, alone sitting under the void deck waiting for judgment day.
From the hope and light of yester years till the bleakness and darkness that awaits...scary :p
Going home
02/07/08 01:00
Rescuing yourself
01/07/08 23:00
CRY I might have, if I did not buy this card. 2x it comes to my rescue, it does.
I owe Sandisk a favor, so shall help to advertise. The first is the ease of purchasing. The careless me forgot to bring a damn CF card, and thank god the airport is selling. I would have brought the camera for nothing.
Today, it saved me again - the recovery application that came along with it works wonder! Well worth the price of the card, in my opinion. Accidentally deleted the photos while watching TV, I was panicking till I recalled that the box contained a recovery disk - and it came with both PC and Mac version!
Very nifty, and very timely
Thinking back
01/07/08 14:49
ABOUT time. Stop
thinking about winning anything.
For a period of time, probably the “never-say-die” spirit in me has been polluting my thoughts. Every small bit counts, and it isn’t helped much by the amount of money I won (it’s actually not a lot, just a couple of hundreds) or lost (there’s always a certain amount of risk involved), and the football crazy season.
Probably the heavy burden and stress of the next couple of years of loans returning’s been weighing on me, probably the constant lunch boxing and sandwiches clouded my mind...and by trying to find a help line, the black hole of temptation gnaws and claws at the heart - and at the very fabrics of my mind of course. Sometimes desperate times calls for desperate measures, though I’m not that desperate of course, so...
I guess it’s time to step back into reality, “legs stamping on steady ground” and stop dreaming the heartlander’s dream - albeit for a while. Hopefully there’s still the birthday luck...
Ok I digress, it’s about the commitment! Effort! Every cent counts, especially when you’re eating sandwiches for lunches!
Hopefully I’d be able to grab more pictures later
For a period of time, probably the “never-say-die” spirit in me has been polluting my thoughts. Every small bit counts, and it isn’t helped much by the amount of money I won (it’s actually not a lot, just a couple of hundreds) or lost (there’s always a certain amount of risk involved), and the football crazy season.
Probably the heavy burden and stress of the next couple of years of loans returning’s been weighing on me, probably the constant lunch boxing and sandwiches clouded my mind...and by trying to find a help line, the black hole of temptation gnaws and claws at the heart - and at the very fabrics of my mind of course. Sometimes desperate times calls for desperate measures, though I’m not that desperate of course, so...
I guess it’s time to step back into reality, “legs stamping on steady ground” and stop dreaming the heartlander’s dream - albeit for a while. Hopefully there’s still the birthday luck...
Ok I digress, it’s about the commitment! Effort! Every cent counts, especially when you’re eating sandwiches for lunches!
Hopefully I’d be able to grab more pictures later