Replacing Resentment With Unconditional Love
From where does resentment come? As no
one thinks in our head but we ourselves, then is resentment caused by the
actions of others or does it build within us, eventually coming to dominate our
thoughts until we have convinced ourselves that resentment towards others is due
to the things that others have done, said, or left
unsaid?
I believe that deep resentment comes about through the cumulative actions of others. taken separately any one thing that has been done, said, or left unsaid does not cause resentment. However, the repetition of the above over many years drags us down into an attitude of resentment - an attitude once recognized we find difficult to remove from our thinking.
Let us look at a few examples that can create resentment. Perhaps you are told "little white lies" year after year. What happens when information that you should have been told is time and again withheld so that the Other can better control you. What happens when using a type of reverse psychology, you are told over and over that you have made the wrong choice and the Other says, "That's OK right now, but you will want to do it differently when the seasons change." Translation, "You should not have done that in your home because I do not approve." What happens when you are repeatedly made to understand that you are not equal to the Other?
One thing occurs quite naturally. You become resentful. Can resentment bring about a positive influence in your life? No, it cannot. Resentment hurts you; it has little or no effect on the Other. Resentment causes a pattern of thought which arises when any of the trigger actions is used by the Other. You are trapped in your resentment. How do you free yourself?
Our freedom comes about when we recognize that unconditional love for ourselves and for all others must be our focus. This love comes from our thinking. If we send it out to all others, it will be returned to us abundantly. Remember the story of casting bread upon the water and it shall return to you seven fold.
Will all others receive our unconditional love? No. But those who do accept our unconditional love enrich our lives and give us the strength to carry on. We must be attuned to those people for with them we have much in common. Those who cannot accept the truth of our love may have to be left alone. It is all right to walk on our Pathway and to allow them to walk on theirs. Unconditional love is sent forth from us with no strings attached. I love you, I want only happiness for you, I grant you the privilege to live your life as you choose.
I believe that deep resentment comes about through the cumulative actions of others. taken separately any one thing that has been done, said, or left unsaid does not cause resentment. However, the repetition of the above over many years drags us down into an attitude of resentment - an attitude once recognized we find difficult to remove from our thinking.
Let us look at a few examples that can create resentment. Perhaps you are told "little white lies" year after year. What happens when information that you should have been told is time and again withheld so that the Other can better control you. What happens when using a type of reverse psychology, you are told over and over that you have made the wrong choice and the Other says, "That's OK right now, but you will want to do it differently when the seasons change." Translation, "You should not have done that in your home because I do not approve." What happens when you are repeatedly made to understand that you are not equal to the Other?
One thing occurs quite naturally. You become resentful. Can resentment bring about a positive influence in your life? No, it cannot. Resentment hurts you; it has little or no effect on the Other. Resentment causes a pattern of thought which arises when any of the trigger actions is used by the Other. You are trapped in your resentment. How do you free yourself?
Our freedom comes about when we recognize that unconditional love for ourselves and for all others must be our focus. This love comes from our thinking. If we send it out to all others, it will be returned to us abundantly. Remember the story of casting bread upon the water and it shall return to you seven fold.
Will all others receive our unconditional love? No. But those who do accept our unconditional love enrich our lives and give us the strength to carry on. We must be attuned to those people for with them we have much in common. Those who cannot accept the truth of our love may have to be left alone. It is all right to walk on our Pathway and to allow them to walk on theirs. Unconditional love is sent forth from us with no strings attached. I love you, I want only happiness for you, I grant you the privilege to live your life as you choose.
Posted: Wed - November 17, 2004 at 10:25 PM
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