After a Disaster

by Marshall H. Lewis, M.A.

 

Many miles from New York and Washington, residents of Southwest Kansas may feel as if they have little reason to be emotionally harmed by the recent terrorist attacks. However, even those who have not lost family or friends in the disaster have, nevertheless, suffered a loss. We have lost the belief that America is safe from foreign attack. We have lost the belief that those who oppose America merely misunderstand us rather than hate us. We have lost peace, even as the nation prepares for war.

Some initial responses to these losses could include anger, fear, disbelief, and a numbing of emotions. It may become more difficult to concentrate or make decisions. Since information has survival value, it is possible to become overly conscientious in watching the news on television or reading newspapers and news magazines.

After a month or so has gone by, responses may include headaches, sleep disturbance, appetite disturbance, suspiciousness, depression, or frustration. Many will feel on edge and become more irritable. Many may just feel overwhelmed and anxious.

These reactions are normal. They are best dealt with by establishing and maintaining a consistent routine and spending time with friends and loved ones. Feelings of helplessness and apprehension can be reduced by doing something, if possible, to help the victims of the attacks. Be tolerant of the shorter tempers of others; everyone is stressed at this time. Listen and share your feelings with those who may want to talk with you. Listen to your children, if they wish to talk or ask questions, but do not force them to talk if they do not wish to.

If, however, frustration turns to aggression, if anxiety keeps you away from the people you love, if depression robs you of any hope in the future, if you increase your intake of alcohol to cope with the stress, then it may be time to consult with a counselor, a minister, or someone else trained to deal objectively with emotions and behaviors. Morton, Stanton, and Grant counties are served by the Area Mental Health Center.