a reflective day

"A birthday doesn't do anything for the person having it, except remind him or her that he's just one year closer to the end of it all.


How do you spend your birthday? This month I will turn another year older. My mother recently sent me an email remarking that she can't believe she has a child who is now "over 40." Andy Rooney talked about birthdays on "60 Minutes" tonight. His words made me laugh and made me think. "A birthday doesn't do anything for the person having it, except remind him or her that he's just one year closer to the end of it all. If you're 49, why should turning 50 be an occasion for joy or celebration?"

I know people who really celebrate their birthdays. My companion, Lisa, really enjoys a good birthday celebration. She likes cake, no work, a real special day. I don't, well I have not, always done a good job making her day special. It is one of the things you learn when you spend your life with one person. What we have learned is to be sure to have dinner together the day we remember our birth. So much of what you do as an adult is fueled by what you did or didn't do as a kid. It is something we know and sometimes even name, but rarely talk about. I am not one to celebrate. My birthday is a quiet reflective day for me. It is private. I don't tell anyone about it. In describing his birthday I have heard my father say, "It beats the alternative." I am glad to still be breathing. I have a lot of living and laughing to do with my companion.

Turning 41 isn't a big deal. But it is a day that I will think about what I have done and reflect on who I am. It is a day to be still, remember, and give thanks that I am still breathing. I am certainly the luckiest man on the earth.

Filed Sun - January 15, 2006, 10:05 PM in

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