We're all in a tizzy again about a hazing incident at Sigma Chi. Yawn. The local rag lists previous incidents, which were drearily familiar to me, except for one at Sigma Alpha Epsilon at 2003, where it says a stripper used a vibrator to penetrate a pledge's anal orifice -- that sounded uncharacteristically heterosexual, although I suppose they didn't specify the sex of the stripper. I could tell you of some other rituals I've heard of, but I won't; I like to keep this blog no worse than R rated.
Everyone, of course including the LJS, has misidentified the problem. They think hazing is something that has to be stopped, either by the schools, or by the alumni of the fraternity, or by the gummint. Get a grip, people! We're discussing consensual sexual activity by men over the age of consent here! Granted, the sort of extreme homosexual BDSM that seems to be the norm for some of our frats may not be everyone's cup of tea, but that's what tolerance is all about. If it's reasonably discreet, and everyone participating has full knowledge and is fully consenting, how can you possibly justify banning it?
The real tragedy seems to me to be the young men who clearly love doing these sorts of things, or having them done to them, and who then have to, once they graduate from college, (presumably because of social pressure) adopt lives of vanilla heterosexual sex. That sort of long-term repression can't be good for them or for the people around them.
No, the problem here is that frats mislabel themselves as organizations promoting 'brotherhood' and similar virtues, rather than hard core gay kink, and may therefore lure in naive heterosexual or vanilla gay guys into their activities. (Seriously naive hets or vanilla gay guys though; c'mon, 'Greek brotherhood'?) This can be solved by 'truth in labeling'. Frats can do what they want, but they need to divulge their initiation rituals to the university; a committee composed of the Dean of Students, perhaps a couple of profs in queer and gender studies, and the sex-ed. coordinator, can write up a quick summary of the frat (e.g. organizational activities: homosexual BDSM, primarily focussing on humiliation and anal penetration), and publish it in the student activities guide. That way the unwary or unwitting get to join organizations perhaps a little more attuned to their tastes (organizational activities: hiring strippers and then drinking so much we can't remember their performance), and maybe the frat brothers themselves can come out of the closet, realize who they really are, and what it is they like. There's nothing to be ashamed of, guys!