Hitchhiker's Guide to Reconciliation


Forgiveness is a topic I've been exploring a great deal lately, both individually and as part of various communities, as I believe it is an essential precondition for transformation. Here's a talk gave way back during my graduate years at Caltech; the key insight (which I've since learned is fairly common, though widely misunderstood) is the distinction between Apologies, Forgiveness, and Reconciliation.

A Hitchhiker's Guide to Reconciliation
CCF Large Group Meeting
Tuesday, November 20th, 1992, 7:30 PM
Ernest N. Prabhakar, S.B. MIT '88
Overview
Introduction
Principles of Reconciliation
a) Reconciliation is a Priority
b) Reconciliation has a Price
• Humility (Matthew 7:1-5)
• Love (Matthew 5:43-48)
• Blood (Hebrews 9:19-22)
c) Reconcilation is Possible
d) Reconciliation requires Participation
Path of Reconciliation (Matthew 18:15-35)
a) Raising Awareness
• Committing the Act (Romans 3:21-24)
• Confronting the Person (Galatians 6:1-5)
b) Releasing Pain (Luke 15:18-24)
• Apology (Psalm 32:1-5)
• Affirm the person and the relationship
• Be Open to Change
• Commit to working things out
• Acceptance
c) Removing Damage
• (Con)'Fessing Up
• "to speak together" (Isaiah 1:18-20)
• Confess Truth (Romans 10:8-13)
• Forgiveness
• Cancel the Debt (Matt 6:12-15)
• Clean the Slate (Psalm 103:10-14)
• Continue the Relationship (Ephesians 2:1-10)
d) Restoring Trust
• Repentance (II Chronicles 7:13-15)
• Restitution (Luke 19:8)
• Reconciliation (Romans 5:9-11)
Partial Reconciliation
a) Stopping Early
b) Skipping Steps
c) Spacing Out
d) Solo Flying
e) Submitting (Luke 6:27-29)

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