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I've added my friends Kevin and Juan to the link list because they have started a blog about their impending adoption.

2 couples I know and love had been working hard down this path.

For all I talk about it, I feel like I have done nothing at all about it.

I did of course, take the foster child 4 years ago now - changing my world forever.

Or at least for three months.

So, now here I am. Dave and I talk all the darn time about this stuff. For me, I am desperately scared that I will lose things I love; I am finally feeling like I am getting back in shape after putting a ridiculous amount of weight on. I cannot imagine giving up my gym time.

I live with this notion that I can retire in 21 years at age 58. Right now, I am on a pretty darn good financial track for that. If we adopt and become parents, we will need to make serious adjustments. A current argument for Dave and I is that he will need to drop work to 3 days per week (I think this is foolish, but whatever). He says I can cover it by reducing my retirement contributions. The only thing is, I don't want to reduce them. It's financially imprudent. Plus, I think we can deal with him working full time. 5 days per week of day care is not much more expensive than 3 days, comparatively.I just don't see how we can swing that.

I fear the total loss of control of my time. I know that isn't what will happen, but that it will be close. I guard my time very carefully, especially post-promotion - it's very easy now to work 55 hours per week and bring tons home. I don't want to end up there. I need to keep my time efficient.

I fear arguments with Dave over the nature of parenting - I suspect Dave will spoil the child rotten. :) I'm really all about instilling a work ethic - life is hard, get used to it, dammit. Do that homework! You want an allowance? Do your chores! Roar!

So we are at a bit of an impass with the biological clocks ticking.... if we are going to adopt, we need to do so soon...... I plan to retire and work part-time as a barista at starbucks somewhere - but we will need to move and buy a huge house in the country with a pool .....

Posted: Mon - July 9, 2007 at 07:53 PM          
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