patience

won't let push come to shove

so we're almost there with the midwife thing...our first choice backed out due to exhaustion and a too-filled calendar (lessons to learn?) and our second choice is too busy with selling her house and a move to georgia, so we are left with our 3rd and probably best choice, audra karp of jamaica plain...i'm sure you'll be getting to know her very well...

the two biggest selling points have been her willingness to work with us on the financial end...bartering with yoga and massage for instance, and most especially her willingness to leave ran alone as much as she wants to be left alone...most of the reading i've been doing points in the direction of letting things take more time and letting the mothers own internal cues signal for the push and such. this from gloria lemay from a piece she wrote for midwifery today in autumn 2000 :

For anyone who has taken workshops with Dr. Michel Odent , you will have heard him repeat over and over, "Zee most important thing is do not disturb zee birthing woman." We think we know what this means. The more births I attend, the more I realize how much I disturb the birthing woman. Disturbing often comes disguised in the form of "helping." Asking the mother questions, constant verbal coaching, side conversations in the room, clicking cameras—there are so many ways to draw the mother from her ancient brain trance (necessary for a smooth expulsion of the baby) into the present-time world (using the neocortex which interferes with smooth birth). This must be avoided.

so then...the sign on the door...do not disturb.

Posted: Fri - March 4, 2005 at 11:21 AM

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