I realize that my first attempt at writing about
this subject was less than stellar. That's why I'm going to try
again.
The sagas demonstrate to us that
the basic element of heathen society has always been the household. This was
the collection of blood and foster kin living on a specific piece of land. In
Iceland, slaves could be considered extensions of the household as well. The
individual is important only in his role as part of the household, and one's
role in a household was demonstrated by responsibilities met within that
household.
That's a hard thing for us
moderns to accept, at least here in the States. We have grown up being taught
the values of individual liberty. Our modern society hates the group and loves
the individual. A perfect example of this: Star Trek. (Disclaimer: I don't
consider myself a Trekkie at all, so any misrepresentations are my own fault for
not really liking the shows in the first place. Except for Voyager, but only
because I think the female captain was hot). On every one of the series barring
the original, sooner or later there appears an enemy known as the Borg. They
are a collective group that shares a group mind, and are horrible because of
their lack of free will, as well as their tendency to "assimilate" other species
into their own.
Why are they so
horrible? The Borg violate our ideas of freedom as an individual quality.
Granted, they are rather gruesome, and they don't offer a choice to other
species before they are "assimilated." However, the underlying theme here is
reminding us that individuality is more important than any sort of group
dynamic.
A household doesn't function
exactly like a Borg collective, of course. One doesn't give up one's thoughts
or opinions upon joining or building a household. The trick is that only
through doing one's part and meeting one's responsibilities to the household can
one be truly free.
In a way, this is
similar to the previous entry I wrote on "Community vs. Self-Reliance" (that
was the one with the math. I promise not to pull that out again). In a way, a
household is a small community, and the community at large is made up of these
households.
Which brings me back to
people like myself: Do we count as
households?
To elucidate the question:
generally speaking, a household is based on a piece of land or geographic
location that is owned or rented on a permanent basis. The members of that
household work together to do what needs to be done to keep it functioning, and
have their own sets of behaviors that are acceptable (for a more detailed
explanation of how a household functions, see the Seidhman's Manifesto,
available here.
I don't agree with everything he says, but his household description is valid to
me). It is, in short, a home.
I have
no home, really. I travel all the time. When I do have an apartment, it is
paid for by my employers. Even discounting the fact that I live with no one
else, how can I consider myself a
household?
I certainly don't belong in
my parents' household. That would require being there more often than I am, as
well as meeting responsibilities within their household. I don't really do
that. Nor can I consider myself a part of any of the KOSH households. Most of
the members are non-blood family to me, but that doesn't make me a member of
their households either.
Perhaps I
need to re-examine the function here. The bottom line, as it were:
A household takes care of the
responsibilities and needs of its members.
Everything else is just gravy. Certainly
things were different in times of the Sagas -- the idea of someone not living on
a patch of land wasn't in their mindset. There were lots more things then that
all households have in common. Today we are diversified, even to the point of
someone like me, who has spent no more than eight months living in the same
location in the past 5 years.
I alone
am my household. I see to my responsibilities and my needs. I may have no
house, no permanent dwelling location, yet I am always together with the other
members of my household (being me, me, me and.... oh, that other guy... me).
Someday I may join a larger household, but for now, this is me.
Does this make me a rabid
individualist like I spoke against with regards to the Borg metaphor? Nope, not
really. I'm willing to join another household if it were the right thing to do,
but I'm not going to force myself into someone else's. That would be the true
act of the rabid individualist -- pushing in where one is not needed, thereby
adding to the burden of the entire household without consideration for what is
best for them.
There. It took two
attempts at writing it, but I arrived at an answer I can live with. Comments?
You know what to do.