One of the NNV that is among the easiest for me
to forget (and as I've said, I don't memorize them, so they're all fairly
forgetful) is Fidelity. Interesting word, fidelity. It brings one of two ideas
to mind: a stereo or a spouse.
A
stereo is called a "High Fidelity" or Hi-Fi because it faithfully reproduces the
sound that was originally made. A couple have fidelity in their marriage if
they are faithful to each other (I know my examples are weird when I have a
stereo reproducing and a couple not reproducing). So the root of fidelity is
faithfulness. Some versions of the Nine Noble Virtues list it as loyalty, which
is close enough, but isn't as much fun to say.
As Asatru, we are by definition
faithful to the Aesir. They have our loyalty, above and beyond all other gods
or goddesses. There can be no division of that loyalty, just as a man cannot
cheat on his wife and remain faithful to her at the same time. So if you're
bloting to Shiva but worshipping the Aesir, I don't know what you are, but you
ain't Asatru. Confused would probably be a good word. And yes, I've heard all
the excuses such as "Odin TOLD me to blot to Shiva" or "I had a previous oath
to Baron Samedi and I can't break that." Confused is still a good word.
Need another reason beyond "Asatru
means being faithful to the Aesir?" We cannot mix and match gods and goddesses
and remain Asatru because we can never know for certain how the Aesir feel about
those other gods and goddesses. Freya may get along really well with Hera, and
they may go out clubbing together. Or they may hate each other and be
(im)mortal enemies and their every meeting might end up in a soap-operatic
hair-pulling, rolling-on-the-floor slapfest. It would take a bigger fool than I
to get caught in the middle of something like
that.
Wow! What a great little side
rant! Anyway, back to the ways of
fidelity.
Aside from our faith to the
gods, we must keep faith with one another, within our families, kindreds, and
friendships. I must acknowledge that making friends with the enemy of a family
member or friend is going to, sooner or later, cause me to be unfaithful to one
of them. The High One tells us:
To
his friend a man should be a friend and to
his friend's friend too; but a friend no
man should be to the friend of his enemy.
(Havamal verse 43, Larrington
translation)
This is approaching what
I said from the backside, but it comes to the same thing. No friend of mine
should be friends with me if I'm a friend of his enemy.
We must always remember, however,
that unless we remain faithful to ourselves, we can have fidelity with no one
and nothing else, and no one and nothing else can have fidelity with us. I
cannot lie to myself about who I am and what I do and expect to have any type of
honest relationship with anyone else. If you are not first Selftru, then you
cannot be any other kind of Tru.